Monthly Archives: June 2012

Sober Tips Beyond Ninety Days

So now you’ve made it to Day 90 of Sobriety. Congratulations on such an amazing accomplishment. Truly, three full months of sobriety is nothing to shake a stick at. For me, I never thought the day would get there when I could get up and take my 90 Day Sobriety Chip, but I followed the Sober Tips of some great people in and out of the twelve step program and I made it.

As I like to say, now you need to get to the next day. Sure, it’s pretty much just like the days in the past, but if you’ve been hitting meetings each day, some of us mostly nights, you might be itching to skip a meeting and find some other fun thing to do. There are plenty of sober activities to enjoy, so take those one day at a time as well. Continue reading

Sober Tips for All Ages

If you’ve come to my new site by accident, or maybe you’ve been following my sober blog over at Pat Moore Foundation, the fact is is that you are here. And for that, I am grateful. Yes, I am grateful my words can possibly affect people in a positive way. Although some may not agree with what I say, I can tell you that these sober tips have worked for me. I find them the easiest to live by in my daily life. I’ve taken the time to break them into three parts, which I will post separately. They are set up like this: One, for beginners in the first 90 days; Two, for semi-beginners from 91-365 days; and Three, for sober people who are more than a year. The reason I’ve done this is because we all face different challenges along the way and with those challenges come responsibilities to yourself and to others around you. Here they are: Continue reading

Drinking Problems and Denial

One of the strongest indicators we at Ask Recovery Rob run across while giving alcohol addiction advice is when people are deep in their denial of alcohol intake. Oftentimes people don’t want to admit how much they drink, and in some cases they are being honest, but they’ve blacked out and can’t remember exactly how much they drank.

Denial is a huge obstacle for some and denial prevents them from getting the help they need for alcohol abuse and alcoholism. With the desire to drink so strong the mind finds ways to rationalize drinking – even if the consequences are obvious. Denial worsens problems at work, finances and personal relationship because it keeps them from looking at their behavior with honest eyes.

Here are four indicators you might be in denial for alcohol abuse or alcoholism.

  • Drastically underestimating how much you drink
  • Downplaying the negative consequences of your drinking
  • Complaining that family and friends are exaggerating the problem
  • Blaming your drinking or drinking-related problems on others

Believe me, if you rationalize your behaviors around your drinking with lies, or refusing to discuss the issues, you might want to take a breath and try to figure out why you are being so defensive. Consider this: if you don’t have a problem with alcohol, then there is no reason to cover up your drinking or making any excuses for your behavior.


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