Addiction Advice | Using Your Sober Tools

There are no promises of happiness in sobriety.

What we are offered in Alcoholics Anonymous are the tools to make ourselves happy, and these tools are manual. You’ll need to sort of work as an apprentice and be guided along by someone who has much more experience. In AA that’s called the Sponsor/Sponsee relationship. Just remember that you have to want sobriety and you have to want happiness.

Earlier I wrote a post about coping with depression in anxiety. This is a perfect example of how to use the tools. Here’s a snippet to get you started.

Coping with Depression

And here is where you can find the full post!


Recovery Rob

Addiction Advice | Learning How to Enjoy Good News

RecoveryRob3Even after 21 years of sobriety (August 23, 1992) I continue to struggle when good news comes my way. For those in the know, I’ve been offering addiction advice since before I got clean and sober. I worked in an alcohol and drug detox and rehab in Somerville, Massachusetts in 1990-91, and have been doing similar work since then (Drug and Violence Prevention for the Governor’s Alliance Against Drugs), but online for about 5 years with Pat Moore Foundation in 2008, and here at Ask Recovery Rob in late 2011. Continue reading

Jagged Little Edges Book Review

Jagged Little EdgesIn June of this year I was contacted to write a review for Jagged Little Edges, a fictional novel about a young woman’s struggles with addiction. Typically, I wouldn’t have reviewed the novel for my Ask Recovery Rob website because I try to stay within the non-fiction realm when writing a review for my addiction advice website. However, I like fiction and the author, Lorelie Rozzano, offered a free, soft-cover book. I couldn’t resist. By the way, I receive a number of offers a year but most of them are for e-book or simply a manuscript. I decline these at this point because a) I don’t have an e-reader, b) I don’t want a pile of papers on my desk, and c) I also don’t care to use my computer in bed at night to read at all. Continue reading

People in Recovery Get People in Recovery

Truth“My serenity is inversely proportional to my expectations.”

This is such a powerful statement, which is found in the Big Book, Acceptance is the Answer. It depends on which edition of the Big Book you have to find the page, so give a look at the chapter and you tell ME what page is it on, okay?

My sober life is amazing. Well, at least I feel that way today. Tomorrow might be a tough day, but today will be a good one because I want it to be. I have the opportunity to share my story, share my crazy thoughts, share my struggles, and most importantly share my solutions. Continue reading

The Tornado Inside All of Us

TornadoI still hit about 3-4 meetings a week. I’d say the average is two a week because there are times when this just doesn’t happen though. There are some life events that come about and I simply choose them over a meeting. But, make no mistake…I will not go more than a week without at least ONE meeting. If it happens, as I am not perfect, I feel my life begin to gust. I know where my life is headed so I get to a meeting. (That’s the addiction advice I offer today!) Continue reading

Book Review | Dig Deep In One Place

Last week I received a wonderful email regarding the book “Dig Deep in One Place: A Couple’s Journey to a Spiritual Life.” It’s a book written by Bill and Sandy Fifield who have both overcome addiction and are now passionate writers, speakers and artists. Bill and Sandy write wonderful, honest and encouraging articles on the struggles of overcoming addiction and healing the mind and body and would love to share their latest article with my readers. 

So, here goes!  Continue reading

Drug Addiction Advice | Holding On To Hope After Drug Detox

RecoveryRob3Holding on to hope during an opioid drug detox recovery can be a struggle. Most of us have tried to stop cold-turkey but the withdrawal pains were so difficult we reverted back to the opioids just to find some physical relief. It’s understandable, but the good news, if you’d like some drug addiction advice, is that the physical aspects of opioid dependency improve after a supervised medical detox. The ‘struggle’ then becomes more about PAWS, post-acute withdrawal syndrome, which psychological addiction, cravings, and temptations that can last for years, and in some cases PAWS can last a lifetime. Continue reading

Complacency and Slips

as_bill_sees_itMy favorite meeting of the week is Tuesday – Tuesdays mornings to be exact. The meeting surrounds the gem of a book, “As Bill Sees It.” What I like best about this book and the meeting is that it’s a bit of a forced topic. I often like that. I tend to ramble, so direction is still necessary. Anyhow, the meeting was about page 99 in “As Bill Sees It” and the page is entitled

“The “Slipper” Needs Understanding.” Continue reading