Category Archives: Addiction Recovery

Drug and Alcohol Addiction Advice – Helping Others

I have to tell you that one of the best parts of the sober community is giving back and being able to help others when they need it. Well, at least for me. It gives me an incredible amount of satisfaction knowing that someone has asked me for help and I was able to point them in the right direction. From time to time here on Ask Recovery Rob people will email me directly and need drug and alcohol addiction advice. Be it what the side effects are of a specific drug, help for a loved or help for themselves, I’ve been able offer addiction advice, people will follow it and they’ll get the help they need. Or, at least they get on the right track after.

What they do after following my addiction advice is up to them.

Just this past weekend, a person contacted me for help. This person, who shall remain gender and nameless for the sake of anonymity, seemed to have woken from a black out of sorts and realized while on a “Bender” they did something that changed their whole life. I think for some, once waking to this realization, would have continued further into the addiction, but his incredibly brave person reached out for help instead, and made the choice to change his/her life.

There are consequences to the decision made, but the most important part here is that the person has NOW taken responsibility and choosing to walk this life path sober.

I was able to make calls and send emails and everyone stepped in to help this person. This morning I received an email stating my new friend has checked in and the recovery process can begin.

I have a great amount of joy in my heart!

Recovery Rob

Addiction Advice – Relapse: Avoiding the Blame Game

We are all partial to finding blame when things fall apart, but in a case of relapse back to drug and alcohol addiction, it’s very important to just take a step back and think before you speak to a loved one who has relapsed. In short, you need to neutralize your emotions and not make your loved one feel guilty or even absolve them from guilt at all.

Taking time to blame someone tends to focus the responsibility on the blamed one and not on the problem, and also focuses on the “Who did what?” as opposed to the “What do we do about it?” Blame also implies a desire or sense to punish someone and by doing so there is a missed opportunity to resolve the problem, or identify the trigger that led to the relapse. The worst part is that the conflict remains the focus instead of finding a solution. Continue reading

Addiction Advice – Helping Someone Through Relapse

Relapse happens often, more often than what anyone would like. In fact, *according to the National Institutes on Alcohol Abuse and Addiction (NIAAA) there is evidence that nearly 90% of alcoholics will experience at least one relapse over the 4-year period following treatment. Unfortunately, there aren’t any interventions that can prevent relapse in a predictable manner.

One of the most difficult parts of sobriety is seeing a loved on return to alcohol and/or drug abuse after they’ve completed addiction treatment and began the work to make their lives better. It can be devastating to all involved. Most loved ones either throw their hands up in despair, while others will seek addiction advice that can help them get through their loved one’s relapse. After all, addiction is also about the people surrounding the addict. Continue reading

Outpatient Detox, an Alternative

Kicking an addiction, whether it is drugs or alcohol, is a major accomplishment, and treatment of any sort usually includes a group therapy of some sort. Counseling of some sort is essential; cognitive behavioral therapy, family counseling and other forms of therapy approaches can assist people who follow addiction advice to stay clean and sober.

If you are abusing alcohol or drugs and don’t feel at this point you are dependent upon them, or maybe you’re considering an alcohol or drug treatment program, but the thought of spending time away from work and home is too frightening, or just not for you right now, there is a very good alternative. An outpatient detox might be the right thing for you.

Consult your doctor if you’d like to quit. Your doctor can help you decide what the best form of treatment is for you, and he or she can help you find the support you’ll need to safely go through any withdrawal symptoms that might occur. Some people have painful withdrawal and some don’t, but it is helpful to let your doctor in on your plan. He or she can help you through, making it safer, less painful, and quicker – with or without any medications.

If you find you cannot quit on your own, an outpatient detox might be the right thing to do. It will help you get through the first craving for alcohol or drugs as you are learning to stay sober.

An outpatient detox treatment is generally when you go to a mental health clinic, treatment facility, or even a hospital clinic on a regular basis. Your doctor can help you make the decision on how often per week you should attend. The choice might depend upon:

  1. How severe your addiction is,
  2. Your mental health,
  3. Your family support, and
  4. Your living situation.

However you and your doctor decide to move forward, it is important to go to outpatient detox sessions regularly and to get other types of support. Having support from loved ones, good transportation and a stable living situation are vital to your continued success.

Most importantly is your commitment to a sober lifestyle.


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Pat Moore Foundation Reviews and Testimonials

One of the many wonderful facets of my life allows me to work with the great people at Pat Moore Foundation.  I’ve been incredibly fortunate to see the alcohol and drug treatment facility flourish and truly come into its own. It’s been hard work but they are receiving notoriety and great press. From time to time they receive great Pat Moore Foundation reviews and testimonials. They come from people in recovery or even people who have loved ones who have gone through this treatment facility.

I have to admit it always warms my heart when I read a Pat Moore Foundation review that comes from a parent or an addict and an adult child of an alcoholic. The testimonials are always life affirming, and quite honestly they gush with enthusiasm, as no other treatment has worked for their loved one.  As an adult child of an alcoholic (ACOA), a recovering alcoholic, and a spouse to one, I feel these letters touch me the most. I know what I went through personally and I share my struggle (and continued struggles) openly in a forum over at Pat Moore Foundation. 

If you’ve already taken the time to click on the link for Pat Moore Foundation reviews that’s great, but if you haven’t you should. Because it’s an anonymous program sometimes people send in letters or email comments and they can’t post them for that specific reason. Also, if you want additional reviews, check out their Facebook page!  

Thanks for reading!

Sober Tips Beyond Ninety Days

So now you’ve made it to Day 90 of Sobriety. Congratulations on such an amazing accomplishment. Truly, three full months of sobriety is nothing to shake a stick at. For me, I never thought the day would get there when I could get up and take my 90 Day Sobriety Chip, but I followed the Sober Tips of some great people in and out of the twelve step program and I made it.

As I like to say, now you need to get to the next day. Sure, it’s pretty much just like the days in the past, but if you’ve been hitting meetings each day, some of us mostly nights, you might be itching to skip a meeting and find some other fun thing to do. There are plenty of sober activities to enjoy, so take those one day at a time as well. Continue reading

Blog Page

Welcome to my blog page on the Ask Recovery Rob website.

Please feel free to engage in conversation, or just ask questions. I’ve been clean and sober since August 23, 1992 and chances are I’ve either lived it, heard about it, and can point you in the right direction for the help you need. I’m not a medical doctor, but then again how many of us in AA or NA actually are, right? We all give advice freely when asked, as it’s part of giving back to a program that has given us so much.

I also blog at Pat Moore Foundation, an alcohol and drug detox and treatment center located in Costa Mesa, California. Although I didn’t go to Pat Moore Foundation, I found them through various channels. They are wonderful and I couldn’t ask for a nicer group of people.

Enjoy my blogs there, or enjoy my blogs here.

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