If you’ve come to my new site by accident, or maybe you’ve been following my sober blog over at Pat Moore Foundation, the fact is is that you are here. And for that, I am grateful. Yes, I am grateful my words can possibly affect people in a positive way. Although some may not agree with what I say, I can tell you that these sober tips have worked for me. I find them the easiest to live by in my daily life. I’ve taken the time to break them into three parts, which I will post separately. They are set up like this: One, for beginners in the first 90 days; Two, for semi-beginners from 91-365 days; and Three, for sober people who are more than a year. The reason I’ve done this is because we all face different challenges along the way and with those challenges come responsibilities to yourself and to others around you. Here they are:
Sober Tips for Beginners:
(again, these sober tips are for people in the first 90 Days of Sobriety.)
- 90 Meetings in 90 Days: You’ll hear this one often and this really works, at least it did for me. I believe the thought behind this is to give you something to do other than going to the bar after work, staying home and drinking, and even isolating.
- One Day At A Time: Yes, a great saying for sure. This was really hard for me at first, and to be totally honest, I pushed this saying so hard that there were times when people would ask me out tomorrow and I’d say, in a smart-alecky way, “I can’t make a commitment to that, as I am doing this ‘one day at a time’”. But, you know what? It helped me keep it in the day.
- Live in the Day: This might seem a bit like ‘One day at a time’ but for me it was about not living in the past, as it depressed and angered me, and it also helped keep me out of the future, as that contributed to my stress.
- Take the Cotton out of Your Ears and Put it in Your Mouth: Now, this one is a bit controversial, but it’s one I ‘grew up’ with and I think it works. I know when I first found sobriety, my mind was all over the place and I had so much to ‘share,’ and for an egomaniac like myself, discussion meetings could be a great way to shine. I loved talking about myself. Well, there are beginners meetings for that, and I quickly learned this is where I should voice my jumbled thoughts. It’s like going to preschool I guess. I still went to other meetings of course, but I kept quiet and listened, trying to identify with whoever was speaking.
- Find Commonality: This is pretty simple once you get used to it. It takes a little bit of practice; at least it did for me. Before I got sober I was looking for ways that I wasn’t an addict. That way it was easier to say, “Hey, I’m not homeless. I’m not stealing from family. I’m still employed.” It’s great to say those things, but I finally came to the conclusion that I didn’t need to lose my job, steal from family, or even be homeless to look at my addictive behavior.
Well that’s it for this blog. I will post more in the near future. Keep checking back of follow me on Twitter @RecoveryRob1.
Have a great Sober Day!